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Your Role in the Conflict

4/19/2017

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Conflict is inevitable.  It is how we handle the inevitable that helps us mature in Christ.  As we seek to better manage the conflict in our lives, there are some important things to keep in mind. 
  1. First of all, examine your role in the conflict.  Ask God to show you your contribution to the problem.  Reflect on these questions:
    a. Did you respond to them in a way that pleases God?
    b. Do you refuse to talk to them, so even if they wanted to apologize, you would never know?
    c. Have you already in your mind sent them to hell and you are just waiting on God to process the paperwork?
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    d. Are you using your influence in a way that will bring about a peaceful resolution to the situation?
  2. Out of examining your role comes admitting when you are wrong. Don’t try to justify your wrong by using the other person’s wrong as your reason for doing wrong.  Remember two wrongs don’t make a right.
  3. If you feel someone has done you wrong, acknowledge why you are upset.  When people hurt us, we make two fatal assumptions.  We assume that they know they hurt us and we assume they know why we are hurt. Help the person understand the effect of their actions and give them the opportunity to clarify the intentions of their actions. 
  4. Understand that your preferences are not gospel truth.  It doesn’t mean a person has sinned just because they didn’t do what you thought they should have done.
  5. Address the issue, don’t attack the person!  “It upset me when you said…” sounds better than “You are always talking crazy!”  Own your feelings.  When a person feels attacked, the issue is not likely to get resolved.  A person will either avoid the discussing the situation or attack back.  Many people begin arguing about the way they are arguing and never get back to addressing the issue.
  6. Be flexible.  As perfect as you think your way is, there is probably an even better way!  Remember that conflict resolution is not about winning the conflict, it is about resolving it.  When we take the attitude of “I won and you loss”, the relationship ends up losing.  Brainstorm to come up with solutions that you can both live with.
  7. Only try to control what you can actually control: yourself.  There is no way that you can control another person.  You cannot make another human being do anything!  It is difficult enough to control self.  In fact, self control is the work of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).
  8. Understand that we all have something we need to change!  We are all works in progress and we each have something that we need to change.  When we are merciful and patient with others, people will in turn be merciful and patient with us (Luke 6:36-38).  
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When Your Spouse isn't Faithful

4/12/2017

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What do you do when your spouse isn’t faithful?  Now that I have your attention, let me clarify.  What do you do when your spouse is not faithful to God?  How do you handle it when your spouse is not a part of the body of Christ, or is no longer committed to Christ?  There are several ways a person can find himself or herself in a marriage where the spouse is not faithful to God.  It may be a case where a person marries someone who is not a Christian.  It could be that neither person was a Christian when they got married, and one obeys the gospel.  Perhaps both people were Christians and one decides that he or she no longer wants to attend worship consistently, nor live under the lordship of Christ in their daily walk.  It could be that the two of you were Christians in name only when you got married, but later in your marriage one of you decides to rededicate your life to living for Christ.  While there's no one-size-fits-all formula that will instantly revolutionize a mismatched marriage, there are principles that can contribute to the health of your relationship.
  • Avoid the “shoulda, coulda, woulda”.  If you embrace the regret of getting married, you will start to resent your spouse.  That resentment will show up in how you think about your spouse and interact with your spouse.  You married who you married, and God wants you to honor the commitment that you made to Him when you said “I do” to your spouse.
  • Show your spouse the love of God.  Make the commitment to love your spouse with a 1 Corinthians 13 love.  Avoid retaliating against your spouse and withholding marriage rights from your spouse.  Show your spouse what forgiveness looks like.  Your behavior is more persuasive than your words (1 Peter 3:1-2).
  • Pray for yourself, your spouse, and your marriage.  Our natural urge is to try to fix our spouse.  However, we must remember that we can’t fix another person.  We have to allow God to move in that person’s life.  We also have to remember that we are also imperfect.  Just because you are faithful to God, that doesn’t mean that you are the perfect spouse.  Both of you need the power of God working on you and within you. 
  • Invite your spouse to worship and church-related activities outside of worship.  As your spouse gets to know other Christians, his or her heart may soften.  Although you are married to your spouse, you may not be the one that God uses to reach your spouse.  Activities outside of worship may be more appealing to your spouse than attending a worship service.  However, you never know unless you ask. 
  • Focus on your areas of agreement with your spouse.  Continue to enjoy the things that you both enjoy.  Dream together, travel together, date your mate.  Emphasis the things you love about your spouse and focus on the good qualities in your spouse.
  • Teach your children your values, but do not turn them against your spouse.  Even if your spouse is not a Christian or is not faithful to God, your children still need to honor your spouse.
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Random Act of Kindness

4/9/2017

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During the month of March, the leadership encouraged the church to reach out to others by doing a kind deed for at least two people who were not members of the body of Christ.  I completed one act of kindness early in the month.  For my second act of kindness, I wanted to do something near the church building.  I decided I would go to a gas station on Illinois and pay for someone’s gas.  I saw a lady with a small child about to go into the store to pre-pay for her gas.  I approached her and asked if I could pay for her gas, but due to a language barrier, she thought I was asking for money or something. 

​After a brief wait, another vehicle pulled up to a pump.  A lady got out and was about to go into the store to pay for her gas.  I asked her if she would mind if I paid for the gas.  I gave her the invitation to the “Down, But Not Done” series.  I mentioned that God had blessed me so I wanted to be a blessing to someone else, and she was that person.  There was great disbelief on her face.  The disbelief grew to shock when I started pumping the gas.  She said, “You are going to pay for the gas, and pump it too?!  At this point she started looking around like she wanted to make sure she wasn’t on a hidden camera game show.  As I finished pumping the gas, she asked where on Marsalis the church is located.  I told her and asked her what her name was in case she visits the church.  As we were about to go our separate ways she said, “Wow! You are just out here paying for people’s gas.  They don’t make them like you anymore.” 

There are several lessons that I took away from that encounter. 
  • People are so used to others asking them for something, that they don’t know how to respond when someone wants to give them something.
  • One of the barriers that we must overcome in serving our community is the language barrier.  The first person that I approached didn’t understand me.  Sure, my inability to speak her language caused her to miss out on free gas.  But it may have also prevented her from being exposed to the gospel.
  • Don’t be discouraged if you are rejected.  Not everyone will hear the message.  Some people will misinterpret your intentions.  If they do, just seek to be a blessing to someone else.
  • There are plenty of opportunities for Christians to show others the love of Christ.  The lady’s final word to me were convicting to me.  Contrary to the lady’s statement, there are plenty of people like me.  Christians who have to be challenged and encouraged to awaken to the need for the church to be a light in the world.  Christians who can grow in seeing people how God sees them.
  • Small acts make a huge impact.  The gas won’t last long, but the impression will.  There are plenty of people who have done far more for others than what I did for this lady.  However, every time she returns to pump 3 at 7-Eleven, she will remember that day a random man paid for her gas.  
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His Blueprint

4/1/2017

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The building metaphor is a rich and powerful one for families.  Think about what it takes to build.  It takes a plan, materials, tools, and labor.  If any element is missing, then nothing gets built.  God’s word is our blueprint for building our families.  Without it, the effort of building is pointless.  While the blueprint is available to all of us, we must be willing to follow it.  There is a high price for not following the plans of God.  Jeremiah 6:19 (NASB) states, "Hear, O earth: behold, I am bringing disaster on this people, The fruit of their plans, Because they have not listened to My words, And as for My law, they have rejected it also.”
The quality of what is built is determined to a large degree by the quality of the building materials.  The foundation must be built upon the solid rock of Jesus, not on the shifting sands of society.  We must work to keep our families focused on what God values and not on what our culture says is important. 

Quality construction also depends on the proper use of tools to assemble the materials.  God’s blueprint calls for our families to be built with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.  When paired with the tools of healthy communication, conflict resolution, and forgiveness strong families are built. 

​As you go throughout the week, ask yourself some reflective questions.  Will I commit/re-commit to using the word of God as the blueprint for my life?  What materials and tools do I need to strengthen me and my family?  What three things will I do differently for the next three weeks to help strengthen me and my family?  
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