Living Single, the hit television series from the 1990s, had a theme song with some messages that are instructive for singles today. The song lyrics are: “We are Living Single Ooo in a 90's kind of world I'm glad I’ve got my girls. Keep your head up (what?) Keep your head up (that's right!) Whenever this life gets tough you’ve got to fight. With my home girls standing to my left and my right; true blue, we’re tight like glue!”
The song suggests that friendships are critical to living single. Although a person is single, they are not alone. Proverbs 17:17 teaches us, “A friend loves at all times and a brother is born for adversity.” Friendships help us survive so we can thrive. It is important to have those in your life who can help you through your struggles. But friends are not just there for adversity; they help us celebrate our victories. Christian friends help us keep the proper perspective. They help us see the world and ourselves through the eyes of God. Friends can provide us with that shot in the arm or kick in the pants that we need to survive in this world.
Secondly, it is important for singles to be encouraged. “Keep your head up!” Your marital status does not determine your worth or minimize your value. When a relationship that you feel will be “the one” fails, keep your head up. When you disappoint yourself and have asked God to forgive you, keep your head up and forgive yourself. Surround yourself with encouragers and be an encouragement to others. It is also important to recognize that sometimes you will have to do what David did in 1 Samuel 30:6 and encourage yourself in the Lord your God.
Finally, the Living Single theme song reminds us to fight. In our culture of comfort, it is all too easy to give up and give in. We do not like struggle and fight. But we are in a war against the devil and we cannot win unless we fight. There will be times when you will have to fight the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life. There may be times when you need to flee from a situation because you are not strong enough to fight. You may be tempted to take short-cuts and compromise who you are as a child of God, but fight. And when you get tired of fighting, make sure that your have those in your corner who are “true blue” and “tight like glue” to fight with you.
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