The FISH Philosophy

There is a fish market in Seattle whose customer service philosophy has been shared throughout the corporate and organizational world.  The FISH Philosophy is a simple approach that has significant impact.  This model can be beneficial beyond the boardroom.  This approach can help parents prioritize what is important in a child’s life. 

As a parent, it is easy to be overwhelmed by all there is that must be done, should be done, could be done, and would be nice to do.  It is impossible to do it all.  Try simplifying your parenting by doing these four things with your children and for your children. 

Be There.  Be emotionally present for your child. It shows your child that he or she is valued.  Don’t just be in the same room or the same house.  Be engaged and attentive.  This strengthens your relationship with your child and communicates a very powerful message to your child: “You matter to me.” 

Play.  Tap into your natural way of being creative, enthusiastic and having fun.  Dr. Calvin Bowers once said to me that having children gives you an excuse to play like a child.  Try making home a fun place where children can escape the madness of the world.  Play reduces stress and increases creativity.  

Make Their Day.  Find simple ways to serve or delight your children in a meaningful, memorable way. It’s about contributing to your child’s life—not because you want something, but because that’s the person you want to be.  Teach them service by your example of serving.  Remember, Jesus served the disciples.  You can serve your child (see Matthew 20:28 and John 13:1-10). 

​Choose Your Attitude.  Take responsibility for how you respond to what life throws at you.  We decide how we will respond to crises, disappointments, hurts, success, and victories.  Our choice affects our children. Our response to our children will be the most impactful example that they have on how to respond to their children.   Ask yourself: “Is my attitude modeling Christ for my children? Is it helping me to be the person I want to be?”  Remember to allow the attitude of Christ to be your attitude (Philippians 2:5).